I have noticed a lack of content in this area. People, me including, have wrote several pieces on dealing with quitting smoking, side effects, the cravings, so on and so fourth. But what if you are not a smoker, but a loved one is, and you need help dealing with what they are going through.

Well coming from someone whose wife has tried to quit smoking a number of times, I can personally tell you that this transition is not an easy one. The first time my wife stopped smoking, it was really difficult for here, as well as it was for me. Between the moodiness, cravings, and fact of not knowing what mood she was in, after 3 weeks I went out and bought her a pack of cigarettes myself, because I did not get married to live that way. To that let me add that my actions were really inappropriate, uncalled for and not necessary. I was at the time just unaware of what she was going through, and only looking at things from my point of view.

Something everyone one that is going through this with a loved one, family member or friend, needs to know is what they are going through. They are trying to kick an addiction in the rear. Trying to improve their life by dramatically changing a life controlling habit is not the easiest thing to do.

While it might appear that there is a lot of negative things happening, at the same time several positive things are happening simultaneously. Even though they are moody, unpredictable and maybe even a bit negative towards things or you, their body after only 12 hours of giving up cigarettes has started healing itself.

But let’s deal with these things that might seem negative. Mood changes and emotional are two very normal things to happen to people when they give up smoking. These things happen because the amounts of hormones in the body are changing, quite dramatically, and the body I dealing with it the best it can. The important thing to remember is that this will all pass in time. Once they have went a full month without nicotine the mood swings and fast emotional changes will start to subside. I know first hand that these things are not the easiest to cope with, but they are necessary to complete.

After the second month you will start to see a dramatic change in attitude, mood and things will start to return to normal. The first month is the by far the hardest. A good tip to make it through is one talk to the person quitting, and let them know that you are there for them, and try to talk to them about how you are feeling. When you do this, do not take the focus off of the fact that you are supporting them one hundred percent, and stay positive to the fact they are making such a positive change in their lives. Another good thing to do is enlist support; I have said many times that if you are quitting smoking to always have someone to talk to, but this is also true when someone close to you is quitting smoking.

I will leave you with this; your loved one is making one of the most important changes in their lives. They have decided to change for the better, change their habits, their health, and the way their life has been since this addiction took over. Stay supportive, understand what they are going through, and do what ever they ask of you to help them through it. Once this journey is complete and they are smoke free, both your lives will be so much better, and you get to spend more of it together.

So you have finally decided to quit smoking? Now it’s time to enlist help, nothing wrong with getting help. We all know that quitting smoking is one of the hardest things we will try to do. Don’t go this alone, stick with us and we will help you stay the course. Our program works in 3 easy steps, and in just 5 days you are smoke free.

Most smokers are afraid that they can’t quit, that cigarettes are more powerful than they are. Actually this is fear from the fear, because if you are still smoking, how can you know that it’s hard without cigarettes? This is a result from your habit that is controlling you so much that it won’t allow you to imagine how life can look like without smoking.

This point brings another question or excuse of yours. I love smoking; I love the ritual, etc. This is partially true, you love the time spent with yourself in that moment. But the cigarette will burn after two minutes, so why light it in the first place? She’ll burn but the pleasure will only last for two minutes. It will last for two minutes and only two minutes. No more. This conditioning will continue until you are brave enough to interrupt this pattern.

First thing you have to do is to hate that you’re controlled. How can you be a free human being, when someone or something controls you? This should be the first milestone for you. The rest are simply techniques that will help you substitute the smoking habit.

You can’t stop smoking without thinking and trying to implement a non-smoker habit.

After you are sure that you understand this, and only after you’re sure, follow these instructions:

o If you can hold out without smoking for only one minute, don’t you think that you can do it in the next minute? Sure you can. You should battle the craving by the minute. It is a much shorter time period to fight your battle and win. This makes the war all that much easier.

o Your first trigger occurs at a point where the body is conditioned to enjoy a cigarette along with a drink or after a meal, etc. These triggers will last for a maximum of 5 minutes. During these 5 minutes your entire body will convince you that it is okay to light the cigarette, that you have reason and it will come up with so many excuses that it will be hard for you to say no.

o Second, as I mentioned in the secret for becoming a non-smoker, you should not involve yourself in your personal fight with the habit. You can’t win your habit in this way, because there will be a period when you’re feeling “down” and that will be a good enough reason for lighting a cigarette.

o You should also be aware that you’ll be very confused in the first 3 days and this is normal and you should accept it. This is the period where your brain is forcing you to light a cigarette and attempts to convince you with what may seem “reasonable” excuses. Since you programmed your brain to feel pleasure whenever you light a cigarette, it is now telling you that something might be wrong without a cigarette or that something might be missing from your life. Your brain is like a big and mighty ship, but you’re the captain, and it will follow your navigation orders, but needs time to take the right course. There is also wind that is blowing your ship in different directions, and there is still a force that is pushing the ship towards the old navigation commands. Don’t forget the power that you as a captain posses, you can change the course of your ship in any direction you want.

By my experience you’ll need only 3 days to start feeling like a non-smoker.

o Another very helpful thing is to try to help some of your friends who are smokers. Try telling them about this techniques and theories and check their opinion. You can make some kind of pact, trying to work together to beat this habit. At the bottom of every post there is a link labeled “Tell a friend!”. Use this link to forward this message and at least remind your friends that they can quit. This can be very stimulating for you and your strength to quit smoking.